Pls help - is my mother going mad? Whats wrong with her? Really worried about her.?

Hiya, sorry your having a rough time, x firstly, to me at the start of the problem she was having a go a you for any rediculous reason, but the more I read the more I realise your mum does have a problem and seems to be taking it out on you, you said she has been like this since her dad died, people react differently when they loose a loved one, they blame everyone and find resons and excuses for doing so, it sounds to me like she isn't going mad she is greiving, your not going to be able to do anything right i wish i could say she will treat you better right now but i don't think she will. I'm sorry, can you try and bare what she is putting you through and not give up on her, she probably needs you more than you think and so she is reacting badly to you. sounds like she wants you constantly, and gets jealous if your not there so treats you badly if you can't make it, it's not your fault, you haven't done anything wrong, she isn't mad but she is certainly hurting and hurting you, try talking to your dad, see if he can help your mam more, life is harsh and so can people , your doing everything you can and it is very plain how much you love your family. Try to be strong, you will all get through this. greif can take years sweetheart, I know I was a pain in my family's life when I lost my daughter, I took it out on everyone and lost my way's. sorry can't help you but time heals, pathetic as it sounds and unhelpful but it is true. Good luck x